First Look Vs. No First Look

To First Look—or Not? Pros, Cons, and Honest Thoughts

When you’re getting married, there’s a million little decisions that add up to one incredible day and whether to do a first look is one of them. If you’ve ever wondered, “Should we keep that reveal for the aisle… or sneak in a quiet moment just us two before the ceremony?”. You’re not alone.

Pros: What You Gain with a First Look

1. A Private, Emotional Moment
   It’s a chance to breathe and maybe cry ugly, happy tears -in private-. Many couples say it “calmed me down” and gave them a peaceful, intimate moment.
   
2. Easier Timeline & Beautiful Light
   Getting your photos done early means you’re not racing through or missing cocktail hour. There is more time to enjoy the time with your guests.
   
3. Ground Each Other Before the Day Picks Up
   Wedding jitters? A first look lets you lean on each other emotionally and physically so you’re present through the ceremony. I mean, this person is your person for a reason.
   
4. Creative Freedom
   With fewer eyes around, I as your photographer can play with locations, light, and even let you exchange notes, vows, or a quiet hug before everything goes public.

Cons: What You Might Miss or Trade Off

1. That “Big Reveal” Moment on the Aisle
   Some couples have dreamt of that emotional gasp when the bride walks toward the aisle. Skipping a first look can make that moment feel even more electric. It’s a more traditional version of the day, and to some that is exactly what they are – traditional.
   
2. Earlier Start, More Logistics
   If you want to freshen makeup or coordinate big bridal parties, this might mean kicking off your beauty prep earlier—or pay for extended services. But this does mean your make is still fresher for the first look.
   
3. Less Spontaneity at the Altar
   Some couples feel the reveal loses a bit of its drama when it happens out of context. It might make the aisle feel less momentous.
   
4. More Day-of Planning
   A first look isn’t just emotional, it involves timing, locations, keeping it a surprise, coordinating with vendors… it can add some pressure if you’re already overwhelmed. However, the right vendors can help streamline this bottle neck.

Final Thoughts: What Feels Right for You?

• Choose a first look if you want to be with your partner as much as possible, love the idea of intimacy before the big moment, and want a relaxed timeline that allows you to spend more time with your guests and partner.
  
• Skip it if you’ve dreamt about seeing each other at the aisle surrounded by family, value tradition, or prefer a slower, emotionally raw reveal.

Still torn? Try an alternative! Because your wedding should be exactly your version:

• First Touch: Stand back-to-back or separated by a door (or tree). You can hold hands or exchange private vows, but don’t see each other yet. This way you still get the emotional surprise walking down the aisle.
  

There’s no right or wrong, it’s about what fits your day. Whether you cry in private or at the altar, your photographer (me, wink wink) will be ready to catch every tear, smile, and sunset. If you’re still mulling over it, I’d love to help you map out how both options could look in your timeline.

Let me know! I’m here for the heart, and for the timeline.